Some times you just have to wonder if the Lord is really good. I have had almost a year of wondering that and nothing has changed. You think, ok, I have sustained enough, I have to be on the upswing, and then again, you realize in a very cold, hard way, nope, not yet, maybe never. Perhaps I am going to continue on to live a marginal life and if that is the case I just want to know now so I don't get my hopes up. A life full of disappointments, covered up by the facade of carrying on a normal life, doing what "regular" people do, it is all just so hollow. Maybe this is the time when I should read one of the multitude of books on how to grieve right, or how to bear loneliness. I mean, what the heck, I this is one time in my life I don't want to just follow the rules and do it the "right way". The last thing I want to do is learn how to be happy with my sadness and loneliness. I don't want to be lonely. I don't want to be sad. Reading about it is not going to make me better. If there is one thing that I can ever get across to my readers, don't give books when to a grieving someone. If they want to read about the very situation that they are in, they will go and get what they want themselves. Do something more practical, like spend time with them so that they feel a bit less lonely and sad. Nobody needs to read about the very experience that they are going through.
I told my mom today that I am having a horrible life, she said I should say I have a great life but I am going through a rough patch. I said, whatever, it has been a bad year. Nothing impersonal ever happens to me. It's never like, hey, your car got hit in the parking lot or a tree fell over in your yard or a flower pot got broken in the move. No, for me it is, hey, my husband was killed for no good reason, my new computer dies will all my final memories of my husband, my bank card number gets stolen and thousands removed my checking account and what do you know, my brand new computer gets dropped on the pavement and the motherboard is ruined along with who knows what else. Good news is, I bought the service plan at Best Buy, bad news is, probably going to lose all the pictures from May onward. I guess I didn't learn my lesson to put all pictures in two places. But I wasn't aware my computer was going to go pavement surfing.
Well, in an effort to be civil, I guess I should end on a positive note. I needed a change of scenery so mom and I went to the flower farm in CT and then on to NYC. It was a beautiful weekend. It was a lot of fun to be away, and to just live in the city for a few days. The food was good, I love eating great ethnic food that you can't get up here and just experiencing the city. There is no place like it. So many outdoor vendors and activities. You would never be bored living there. Here are some picture updates for the week. The house is coming along. More to come on that.
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A trip to White Flower Farm in CT. The pictures I think speak for themselves. I would love to go back in the spring when every thing is fresh and in bloom.
I have never seen mums so big, 1/2 a bushel.




The tuberous begonia green house. I have NEVER seen such large, amazingly beautiful begonias. The vast majority in the green house were just for show. So beautiful.


The project pushes on. It was greeted to a large amount done in the 3 days that I was away. I left Friday night with just the shower enclosure completed and now the floor is down in the bathroom as is the wood floor in the kitchen. yeah! Lots of progress. I don't have a picture of the wood floor because it is so nicely wrapped up in paper to protect it as the guys work. Finally, perhaps the end is in site.


So this is the site that greeted me as I drove down Judson to my house tonight. Wow! I didn't realize the wind strength I guess. Chris told us on the phone as we were driving home that there was a microburst type of thing last night but I didn't realized just how close to home it might hit. This is a weeping willow that is located just over the fence line on my neighbors property. A lovely white fence with a beautiful border garden is just crushed under there. That is a lot of tree to clean up. The ironic thing is that I just had a discussion with them last weekend and that is one of two trees that they really didn't want anything done to. Apparently it was not as healthy as it seemed????

